Rules, Relationships, and Respect: Building a Strong Foundation in the Music Room
- Cheryl Baker
- Jul 29
- 2 min read
Updated: Sep 28
Before the first drum is tapped or song is sung, two things will shape your entire school year: the rules you enforce and the relationships you build. Setting clear expectations for behavior creates a safe, respectful space where music-making can thrive. But just as important is connecting—really connecting—with your students and school community.
Students want to know that you’re a real person, not just the adult with the tambourine. And your staff allies? They’ll be the ones who help you track down a mic cord before a concert or lend a hand when your tech goes down. Let’s look at how to set firm (but fair!) expectations and start building trust with the people who’ll make your job easier—and more meaningful.
Here are steps 5 and 6.
Step 5: Decide on your unbreakable rules and consequences
MUSIC
5 golden rules
3 school rules
Time out/rest area/ chill out spot
Basic rules – Make music not noise. Be respectful (hands and feet to yourself and raise your hand). Be careful with the instruments. Participate by doing what we are doing today.
Step 6: Make connections with staff and with your students
It’s OK to talk with students! They want to know that you are human! Do you have pets, are you married, what kind of place do you live (apartment or house), how old are you – whatever, they want to know. YOU want to know about them as well. Who plays an instrument – piano, string, band, percussion? What kind of sports do they play? What do they like to read? What kinds of music are they listening to now? Build in some time for the class to just talk to you – and to each other if you have a mixed classroom (students from more than one home room).
Make sure to get to know all your teachers, the admin, custodians, office personnel, cafeteria workers. All of these people are your allies. You want to be able to call on them for help and support for your programs and performances. Make friends, be open to suggestions, and be helpful!
Wait! There's more coming! If you can't wait, go to my website, https://www.lessonsfromthemusicroom.com/ and download my FREE resource, Survival Guide for Elementary Music Teachers.
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